This week is fair weather friends week. We all have those stories about people we thought were friends but then saw their other side.
But I started thinking... have I ever been that friend? That one who just did the "me me me" of the relationship and never bothered to listen to my other friend?
I'm an introvert by nature. It takes me a long time to get close to a person. I'm quiet and shy and don't like talking to strangers. So I end up with a lot of people that I know, and are acquaintances, but not a lot of true, close friends. My close friends are spread all around the country. I'm not able to hop in the car and head over for a chat. I can only keep up with them by phone, or more likely, Facebook, email, and text. So sometimes it seems like days or longer have gone by and I haven't "talked" to them. I don't know what is going on in their lives. I've been to wrapped up in my own shit to think about them. They are going through tough times and I'm not even noticing.
Oh my God, I am a crappy friend!
No wait. I may not take the time to reach out to those who are are not in my inner circle, but those that are know that I'm right there for them, no matter what. And come what may - I will be.
I guess I am just in a "turn the critical eye on me" mood.
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I feel like this sometimes too. It keeps me from being offended if someone doesn't know when something's going on in my life.
But I don't think that being this way makes one a crappy friend. Friends know that you'll be there when you need them even if you haven't called to say "hi" in awhile.
I have to agree with Celeste on that one. Although, I admit to being horrifically insecure and am constantly feeling guilty for being so self-centered for so long.
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