I wonder what my fellow bitches and everyone else thinks about teen girls and dating age? My 12 year old suddenly became interested in BOYS (said with as much scorn and loathing as a mother of 3 boys and only 1 girl can muster) last summer. Over the month of December she started "dating" one of those vile BOYS who are only after one thing. (How do I know that he's only after one thing? ALL 14 year old boys only have one thing on their mind. For that matter all 37 year old boys have that same thing on their mind) I did my best to minimize contact with said BOY. They met at a birthday party for a friend of my daughter and BOY lives 40 minutes away from here, so it wasn't to hard to keep face to face contact from happening. But they spent a lot of time talking over Facebook and cell phone. Last night the BOY broke up with my daughter, causing much tears, wailing and gnashing of teeth. Not to mention the phone calls from school because she was just to "sick" to stay there. And yes, by "sick" I mean emotional. I don't think that 12 year olds should be dating, but I also know that in this day and age of all things electronic it is next to impossible to keep them "little" for long. Is it wrong for me to despise all BOYS but the 3 I pushed out?

I'm a mother of 2 daughters, ages 15 (16, God help me, in April) and 7 (going on roughly 35 year old sea worn sailor, God help me again) - boys... gah. For starters, I happen to love boys. My son has an amazing group of friends that are all sort of second sons to my husband and I. They also are an amazingly, protective batch of young men who have more than intimidated any boy who even slightly looked at my 15 year old. It puts me in a lovely position because I get to play the good cop to their bad cops and I only offer my "Godmother" (like the Godfather only more violent) protection if I like the boy. ;) Which, thankfully, I happen to love my daughter's current boyfriend of almost a year. He's a quiet boy from a nice family, gets good grades and isn't an octopus when he thinks we aren't looking. I can't say the same for her first boyfriend. Which wasn't really her first boyfriend...

My daughter sort of got interested in boys in junior high. She had an age appropriate boyfriend and an age appropriate relationship. Let me explain what that means - my daughter didn't "Date" in the traditional sense. She had a boyfriend at school that she chatted with on the phone and hung out with at lunch. End of story and I think that's "age appropriate" one on one dates would not have been acceptable but I had no problem with a large group of kids going to the movies which only happened a few times.

The second boyfriend, my daughter was freshman in high school and he was a senior (the horror stories I could tell here, but I won't). My husband and I gritted our teeth through the entire relationship and happily celebrated (and none too quietly) as soon as it was over. The next boyfriend she attended winter formal with and I didn't like him because he was arrogant and a too full of himself, but he was polite. NONE of the boys (my son's friends) liked him or the previous boyfriend at all. I think it sort of expedited the exodus of both boys because my daughter got tired of scolding 18 - 20 year olds for intimidating her boyfriends. At any rate, she got bored quickly and dumped him moving on to another boy who actually ended up being her best friend and they broke it off and have remained even closer than when they were together. In fact, he sort of set her up with the current boyfriend. The two of them together really come off more like best friends than boyfriend/girlfriend and for that I'm very happy.

All of that being said - I think it's a sliding scale on relationships and children and socializing and all of that jazz. I don't think you get comfortable with your kids having any kind of relationship that propels them any closer to "adult" situations, honestly. Although, Winnie - your boys - do you feel the same way as you do with your daughter? (bolding because I hope you respond in the comments, I'm very interested!) Honestly? I have issues with my son's girlfriend but they aren't for the same reason as the issues I had with my daughter. In fact, I was going to bitch about gf today but I'll save that for another time. Regardless - as wrong as this may sound I've always taught my son to treat women a certain way (and I've preached safe sex in age appropriate conversations since he was 5) and after that I really felt that I had my own daughters to worry about and as long as I like the girl he's with - I really don't care.

And, ladies, I apologize for the length of my bitch, I did try to shorten it but sort of felt Winnie opened up a great discussion and I wanted to sort of lay my cards out so we could hopefully continue the conversation. Sorry!

I can honestly say, I'm too damn tired to bitch LOL. This week was a series of sleep deprivation, work, EMT class, and stupid people proving that there is always room for more stupid.

I feel like a sloth, I missed my work out three days this week, and it really gets driven home when I am rushing around trying to get things done just how out of shape I am. I missed it because I was really too tired to get up three hours before dawn to sweat and pant and gasp for air.

Gasping for air is not sexy when you're also sweating like a whore in church. (Mentioning whores, I'd like to have a body like Gianna Michaels when all is said and done.)